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Life is Good, But Life is Hard


Our bodies give us signs when something is wrong with them (we call them “symptoms”). For instance, pain after a hard fall alerts us that we may have broken a bone. Or a headache communicates that we may be dehydrated. A hot sensation when we touch a surface lets us know to pull away quickly, so we don’t burn ourselves and create irreparable damage.

There are specific “signs” our soul uses to tell us that something is wrong inside, that something is “off.” However, we shouldn’t interpret these signs as signifiers that something is wrong with us. Rather, these signs actually confirm that all is well, that we simply have wounds we need to address.


It Comes From Within

We receive messages about soul wounds from our conscience.

Webster’s defines conscience as-

“the sense or consciousness of the moral goodness or blameworthiness of one's own conduct, intentions, or character together with a feeling of obligation to do right or be good.”

Notice a few things:

  • First, our conscience communicates both good and bad things, that is, it tells us about things that are right and things that are wrong. Webster’s used the term “goodness” and “blameworthiness” to denote this.
  • Second, our conscience communicates to us about what we do (conduct), things we think about doing (intentions), as well as the general trajectory life is taking (character). Therefore, our conscience might communicate with us before we do something (in anticipation of it), after we do (as a look back to confirm we did well or that we did wrong), or even during the event in question.
  • Third, finally, our conscience has a bent towards doing right.


It’s Common for All People

C.S. Lewis, the famed author of the Chronicles of Narnia, noted that across all cultures, all languages, in all time periods, there seemed to be a specific set of rights and wrongs.

  • Killing is always wrong.
  • Lying and stealing are always wrong.
  • Men should always defer to women and children.
  • Rape and abuse are always wrong (people who do it tend to justify it, again, showing that they know inherently that both are violations of the human code).

Lewis says this is because we all have a moral compass inside of us, one that transcends who we are and is rooted in the Creator’s design (see his book Mere Christianity for more).

Whereas he was a Christian author later in life, he began his career as an atheist and even communicated some of these ideas then. Again, this shows that the moral compass is rather consistent- and isn’t just religiously based (though, I would say, we have a natural drive to connect with our Creator because of the Imago Dei in each of us).

In Romans 1, Paul writes about the same issue. He says that even if we’ve never seen religious laws, we have a “law” on our heart, a conscience, that bears witness to us when we walk uprightly and when we don’t.

When that conscience is violated, Moral Injury (MI) occurs.


The Result = Guilt & Shame

Whereas PTSD results in a “fight or flight” response, MI is different. When you feel MI, your soul communicates with guilt and shame.

MI happens when, first of all, your conscience is violated. And, as a result, you feel worthless. In fact, in some instances you may even feel less than human.

You’ve probably heard the saying, "Wherever you go, there you are.” When the issue is “in you” (i.e., your conscience), you can’t fight it or run from it. It remains present with you.

Whereas PTSD primarily deals with our mind and our emotions, MI primarily deals with our mind and our spirit.

Since PTSD and MI are two different issues, they must must be addressed in a much different matter. PTSD must be addressed as being primarily a mental and emotional issue while MI, though it may have an emotional component, is basically a moral or spiritual issue.

Again, MI deals with guilt and shame. Oddly enough, we’re able to separate guilt (what we do) and shame (who we are). The two, though related, are different…

Here’s what I mean…

Whereas guilt focuses on actions (what we do), shame declares identity (who we are). People can repent of actions, but they can’t repent of their identity.

An identity change requires we do more than rewrite the script. To change an identity we must re-cast the character. Or, to say it another way, we must address the root causes rather than looking at the fruit symptoms.


In the End…

You can always find a story to back your perception that you’ll be rejected. I revealed the most to the person I loved the best and was shunned the most. I’ve learned that some of the biggest offenders of loving people imperfectly are the most oblivious to it, and even use pop psychology and well-worn phrases that sound more cliché than real. But that’s, not the norm.

Freedom is always found on the other side of transparency. Perhaps you need to let go of things you’ve done. Or you need to release the weight of things you’ve experienced- things that were done to you or things that you witnessed firsthand. Whatever the case, freedom is found in the light.

Label it. Light it up. And let it go…


Six Oils to Move from Your Past to Your Potential

Throughout this course (total run time = 1 hour) we'll show you how to use 3 of Young Living's blends and 3 of their singles to all in greater soul health (pictured below).

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